1) Are relationships important for everyone?

The need for relationship varies from person to person. Generally speaking relationship is karmic. The gender attraction is the collective karma of life itself. You see it in the plant kingdom, animal kingdom and among human. Human beings dramatize relationship.

2) How can I attract the right person?

Mr. Right and Ms. Right simply don't exist. Everyone is a combination of good and bad. You have to find out what you can live with or put up with. As regards attraction, it is simple. You can use mantras and chants. KLEEM is the mantra for attracting relationship.

3) I just broke up with my boyfriend/girlfriend. The pain is unbearable. Is there a solution?

The pain resulting from loss/separation/divorce/death is really intense. A certain amount of grieving is indispensable. Practice the One Minute Meditation. It will give you peace of mind and heal your heart.

4) I am afraid that my spouse/boyfriend/girlfriend is going to leave me. What can I do?

Get rid of this idea from your mind. Otherwise, you will manifest it. Nevertheless if you prepare for separation, that is fine, too.

5) How can I get rid of an obsessive relationship?

Every relationship, to a degree, is obsessive. The obsessive part is due to karma that brings two people together. Once the karma is done, the obsession is gone. Then you will celebrate your aloneness as much as you do being with another.

Learning Compatibility in Relationships
Vedic astrology is deep into relationship compatibility that you can check before you get involved. Astrology is not superstition, and in my opinion, it is God's gift to humanity to help us.

You are a social being, and it is terribly, terribly important that you develop interpersonal relationship skills. If there is one principle that I want to emphasize for success in your personal life, or business life, it is the importance of having very good interpersonal relationships.

The bottom line in learning to create a good relationship is that you should not carry on your judgments about the other person. Every moment is new, and you should be willing to look at that person in a different way. And even if that person is a scoundrel, you pretend as if there are no problems between you. Then you not only pretend but you believe that is true. And then you will find that things do change. You cannot change the other person. You can only change yourself. So, let the other person do whatever he or she wants to do. As far as you are concerned, this is what you are going to do. You are going to be open, you are going to be friendly, and you are not going to be judging. Or, even if you judge, that will disappear in the next moment and then you are open. And then you go on with your life.

This is an important idea to absorb. Every moment is new. Every moment can open to a new reality.

Becoming Love to be More Loving
God will eventually make you understand that you are God. When you become God, then there will be no animosity, finger pointing, abuse, hatred or anger. You will just be love, You will love everyone unconditionally and not because both of you scratch each other's back, although that may appear to be kind of nice.

You may reply back to God: 'God, that's all fine. But do you have a remedy for my tooth-ache?' (meaning your pain in your current relationship situation). God says, 'Yes, I do. Use the mantra KLEEM.'

KLEEM is a seed syllable for Parvati who is a feminine aspect of the Divine, a goddess who can assist you with relationships. Some people say it is selfish to pray for a relationship, but I say it is important to ASK for what you want.

My suggestion to you is get a Shiva-Shakti mala, made from rudraksha/crystal beads, and chant KLEEM 108 times a day on a daily basis. It will silently remedy your relationship problems.

MANTRA: KLEEM SHREEM HREEM
[Pronounced: KLEEM SHREEM HREEM]

This mantra brings in a host of Divine blessings that are very potent seed syllables that combine effectively to bless relationships.

Connecting Relationship and the Planets
I would like you to understand some concept concerning the planets in Vedic astrology. In Vedic astrology, the planets are not just celestial objects. Each planet is a celestial being, and the celestial body is only the outer manifestation of the planetary being. Relationship problems are caused, primarily, by two planets: Mars and Venus.

Mars
Mars is the pre-eminent problem for fights between partners. Mars represents ego and quarrels. Those of you in conflict with each other might want to propitiate Mars and his planetary god, Muruga.

To do this you light a candle (a small tea-candle is fine) in front of their pictures and chant their mantras.

The mantra for the planetary god Mars is:

MANTRA: OM MANGALAYA NAMAHA
[Pronounced: OHM MAN-GA-LI-YA NA-MA-HA]

The mantra for the planetary god of Mars, Muruga is:

MANTRA: OM SARVANA BAVAYA NAMAHA
[Pronounced: OHM SA-RA-VA-NA BA-VA-YA NA-MA-HA]

Venus
Venus is another planet that is directly related to relationships. Venus particularly creates more romance than sex. Between Mars and Venus, Mars is associated with sex and Venus with romance. Venus energy is very active on Friday. Mars energy is very active on Tuesday.

Passionate love feeling or passionate separation is caused by Venus. The planetary goddess for Venus is Lakshmi. You can propitiate Venus and Lakshmi through the following mantras.

The mantra for the planetary goddess of Venus is:

MANTRA: OM SHUKRAYA NAMAHA
[Pronounced: OHM SHUK-RAH-YA NA-MA-HA]

The mantra for the planetary goddess of Venus, Lakshmi is:

MANTRA: OM SHREEM NAMAHA
[Pronounced: OHM SHREEM NA-MA-HA]

Light a candle before a picture of each deity and chant each mantra 108 times.

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